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“…clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility,
gentleness, and patience…
and over all these virtues put on love,
which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
Colossians 3:12-14

Our identity in Christ means we should look, sound, think, and behave differently.  It’s all about what we choose to wear — and that has nothing to do with designer labels or fabric blends.

Paul instructs the Colossians — and by extension, us — to put on:

• Compassion
• Kindness
• Humility
• Gentleness
• Patience

Take a moment to look over and pray over that list. Does it describe you? Does it describe you in your role as wife … mother … grandmother … friend … daughter … neighbor? A few probing questions for self-assessment:

• Am I compassionate when those around me are suffering through hard things?
• Does kindness permeate my relationships with my neighbors?
• Am I humble as I work through challenges in my marriage?
• Do I exhibit patience and understanding in my dealings with others at work, church, or organizations where I give my time?
• Am I a patient, loving grandparent who invests in the lives of my grandchildren?

I love the imagery of clothing ourselves with these traits. I may not naturally be or feel compassionate, kind, humble, gentle, or patient, but I can choose to put on those traits. As women of God, there are areas we know what is right and must choose to do (or put on) what is right and, hopefully, it will eventually feel right. We make conscious,  deliberate choices, prompted by Scripture and the leading of the Holy Spirit.

After we are all dressed with these beautiful traits — and did you notice that three of the five are listed as Fruits of the Spirit? (see Galatians 5:22-23) — we add the final accessory. It’s the perfect one because it ties the whole outfit together beautifully: Love.

Love is listed first in the Fruit of the Spirit cluster. Love is why Jesus left heaven, took on our death sentence, and opened the door for our salvation. Love makes it possible to keep wearing compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. If love leads out, the rest will naturally follow.

The challenging, overarching self-assessment question is: Do I really love my husband, my children, my grandchildren, my coworkers, my neighbors? And, if I do, does what I’m wearing reflect that?

Sister Friend, is it time for some wardrobe adjustment? What are you wearing?

II Corinthians has been viewed as perhaps the most personal of all Paul’s letters — and that is never more apparent than in the last few chapters of the book, where we find a distinct shift in tone beginning with Chapter 10. In this week’s devotional video, Laura addresses this change and the possible reasons for it. We invite you to watch and listen to Laura’s thoughts on this passage, where Paul speaks in defense of his ministry (and makes it clear that he boasts only in the Lord) in response to trouble-makers undermining his authority.

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“…set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated
at the right hand of God.
Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”
Colossians 3:1-2

Are you a thermostat or a thermometer?

A thermometer reflects the temperature in the environment, but a thermostat has the power to change the environment.

I like to call Colossians 3:1-2 the “thermostat verses.” When we choose to set our hearts and minds on things above, we are aligned with Christ; the challenges that try to heat us up or cool us off lose their power over us.

Having a heavenly heart-set and mind-set comes by choosing to abide in the Word. Making this a priority is a day-changer. And as each day is changed, over time you’ve changed your life—actually, you’ve allowed God to change your life.

If you want God to change your life, you begin by giving Him your heart, giving Him your mind. This submission is a daily choice. Giving Him my heart and mind yesterday is not a once-and-done. Today is a new day, and another day to choose—again—to set my heart and mind on Him.

This abiding in Him is a discipline to be cultivated. But as it becomes a way of life, it no longer looks or feels like a task to be checked off. Instead, it is more like a joy to be claimed. It becomes natural, as natural as breathing. Abiding in Him becomes not something we do, but who we are.

Three times in Revelation (1:8, 21:6, and 22:13), we read, “I am the Alpha and the Omega.” God is both the first and the last. He is the beginning and the end. He created us and this world. He will have the final say and one day every knee will bow and every tongue confess that He is Lord. (Isaiah 45:23, Romans 14:11, and Philippians 2:10-11).

We know the beginning.

We know the end.

We are living in the middle part. This is our opportunity to live out the truth we know and believe. He is Lord of all.  And He is Lord of me. He is able to change my circumstances or change me as I walk through my circumstances.

Living in the middle part is time to set our hearts and set our minds on Him.

A heaven-focused heart and mind will transform our earthly walk. Are you choosing to set your heart and set your mind on Him?

In this week’s devotional video, Laura introduces our Write the WORD bookmark for February. Our topic this month is Colossians 3 and, in a departure from many of our topical bookmarks, we will be writing our way through the entire chapter, in order, during February. We hope you’ll listen as Laura introduces one of her favorite “power chapters”— a passage filled with so much truth that it merits extra focus and examination.

Don’t forget to visit our Downloads page for your copy of the Write the WORD: Colossians 3 bookmark, optional S.O.A.P. Bible study pages, and other free resources to help you focus your heart and mind on our heavenly Father and His Word.

And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father,
and serve him with wholehearted devotion
and with a willing mind,
for the Lord searches every heart and
understands every desire and every thought.
If you seek him, he will be found by you;
but if you forsake him, he will reject you forever.
I Chronicles 28:9

David’s wise words to his son Solomon are part pleading, part warning.  Like parents of every generation, David hopes his own life experiences can be conveyed in a way that his son will grasp them – perhaps learning the “easy way” what David learned the “hard way.”

David’s words convey a longing for his son to to listen and heed the advice he gives. David challenges Solomon to:

• Acknowledge God
• Serve God
• Seek God

He reminds Solomon: this is the “God of your father.” That reminder is almost prophetic as we learn later of Solomon’s falling away because of his idolatrous wives. David explains what it means to serve God.  Rather than mindless outward acts, his call is to be all in – heart and mind.

His final words take on a warning tone: you have a choice, son … you can either seek God and find Him, or you can forsake Him and he will reject you.

David, the man after God’s heart, lived all this, so he was well equipped to share it. Every word of his wise counsel to Solomon was learned and lived in his own life.

What about you and me? Do you and I desire to be described as, “a woman after God’s heart?”

If so, we can “eavesdrop” on David’s conversation the Solomon and heed the advice. How is God calling you and calling me to acknowledge Him, serve Him – with our whole heart and mind – and seek Him?

In this week’s devotional video, Laura unpacks II Corinthians, chapter 9, as Paul continues his teaching on the topic of giving. In chapter 8, we explored the grace of giving. This week, we are called to generosity. We invite you to watch as Laura outlines the blessings of generosity, then offers 10 self-awareness questions. We hope you will consider these questions prayerfully and carefully as you ponder what it means to be generous.

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Glory in his holy name;
let the hearts of those who seek the Lord rejoice!
 Seek the Lord and his strength;
seek his presence continually!
I Chronicles 16:10-11

King David, who has given us so many beautiful Psalms to praise God, also wrote these words of praise to celebrate the return of the Ark to Jerusalem.

In the verses just prior to these, David urges the people to:

• Give thanks
• Call on the Lord
• Make His deeds known among the nations
• Sing to Him
• Tell of His wonderful acts

And then in verses 10-11, there is a call to SEEK:

• Seek the Lord
• Seek His strength
• Seek His presence continually

If we seek the Lord, it will lead to rejoicing. What else can you do in His presence? The disciples in Matthew 28:16 (a passage we often refer to as the Great Commission) worshiped the Lord when they saw Him. The wise men at his birth sought him, bowed down, and worshiped when they beheld him. We don’t have to travel far and uncomfortably to find the Lord Jesus. He is very near – living in our hearts if we know Him.

When troubles come, we may seek many things: self-help books, “therapy” in the form of shopping or chocolate, entertainment, or just a vacation to get away from it all. But, as women of God, He should be the One we seek first. In all circumstances, we should seek his face.

David admonishes us to look and to seek. The Lord is our North Star, our compass in the storm, our pillar of cloud by day and pillar of fire by night.

To seek is to go after, to hunt for, to search. There is intent, focus and determination. On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate yourself on seeking God? Do you look to Him for help and guidance in all things, large and small? How well are you and I doing at looking for him when we have a decision to make, when we need to respond to a challenging situation, or when we just don’t know what to do?

If I am seeking Him continually, then every decision will be filtered through His presence and provision. We can be reassured by David’s words to his son Solomon, ”If you seek Him, He will be found by you” (I Chronicles 28:9, II Chronicles 15:2).

Are you seeking and finding the Lord today? And when you find Him, are you praising and rejoicing in His name?

Our II Corinthians Bible study brought us to Chapter 8 this week. In this chapter, Paul encouraged the Corinthians to “excel in the grace of giving” and presents the Macedonians as an example of what that should look like. We invite you to hear Laura’s insight into this passage in this week’s teaching video!

But Jehoshaphat also said to the king of Israel,
“First seek the counsel of the Lord.”
I Kings 22:5

Jehoshaphat was the son of King Asa and the fourth king of the southern kingdom of Judah. We like to classify folks, especially Bible people, as good or bad. But the reality is that all of us are a mixture of both! King Jehoshaphat was no exception. He is considered a good king because he did make some good choices, but he also made some poor choices, as well.

He made an alliance with the northern Kingdom of Israel when he allowed (or perhaps, arranged) a marriage between his son, Jehoram, and Ophelia, the daughter of the wicked King Ahab and Queen Jezebel. That would certainly be a decision worthy of a mark in the “minus” column.

In the passage we are looking at today (I Kings 22), Jehoshaphat first gets it wrong, but quickly rebounds to make it right.

King Ahab decides it’s time to take back Ramoth Gilead from the Arameans. (It’s interesting to note that King Ahab had just been allied with the Arameans to fight the Assyrians. But now that the Assyrian threat no longer exists, he is ready to turn on his allies.)

In I Kings 22:4, King Ahab asked Jehoshaphat to help him fight the Arameans to take Ramoth Gilead. Jehoshaphat quickly and graciously agrees:

“I am as you are, my people as your people, my horses as your horses.”

But then his second thought—which should have been his first—is to check in with the Lord.

Oh, how often have we quickly agreed before consulting God? And it’s not just bad things. Sometimes it is a good thing we quickly agree to do, but perhaps not things the Lord has for us. What motivates us? Are we honored to be asked? Is there pride in our yes?

Do we feel guilty to say no? If so, could that be illegitimate guilt?

Do we have the desire to do the thing? If so, we need to examine our motives. Is this to fuel my ego? Is my motive to make me feel better about myself? Am I looking to impress others?

Many times, while raising our children, God pulled me back. He kindly taught me that saying no to a committee chairman or Christian leader with a ministry opportunity was actually saying yes to my family.

My best “yes” must always be the one I give to God. My eyes must be ever on Him. Seeking Him first means checking with him first. It ensures that I am protected.

Here are four reasons (and you may think of even more) to seek Him first before giving a yes to an invitation to serve:

1. Protection for the ministry.
   If I’m launching out on my own, then when life gets full and stressful, this may be the first thing I abandon. There’s no Holy Spirit power to keep me going because I said “yes” in my strength, and the ministry I committed to serve will suffer for it.
2. Protection from exhaustion.
   If my yes was in the flesh, there’s no spiritual power. It’s foolish to believe God will bless an assignment He did not give me. Even if I stick it out, my work will be frustrating because I’m plowing ahead in my own strength and that will lead to exhaustion and frustration.
3. Protection from distractions.
   When we say yes to anything other than His assignments, those obligations can distract us from assignments that are God-given and God-ordained.
4. Protection from the flesh.
   Checking in with God before committing keeps us abiding in Him. Seeking HIS will and HIS way keeps us in alignment with Him and protects us from our own flesh.

Psalm 25:15 says,

“My eyes are ever on the Lord, for only he will release my feet from the snare.”

Only by keeping our focus on Him can we be protected from our own pride, ego, and mixed or selfish motives.

Are you and I keeping our eyes “ever on the Lord”?  Are we seeking His counsel before making a decision or giving an answer? Why not make this a commitment for 2024?

Hebrews 11:6 says:

And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

In Friday’s devotional video, Laura unpacked this powerful verse from our January SEEK bookmark. We invite you to watch today as she challenges us to seek Him in 2024 and discover the reward that comes with our seeking.

We may be nearly halfway through January, but it is not too late to join us for the remainder of the month as we focus on how the word “seek” is used in scripture. Just visit our Downloads page, where you’ll find our Write the WORD: Seek bookmark and optional S.O.A.P. study pages, as well as other helpful free resources for your heart and home.

But if from there you seek the LORD your God
you will find him if you seek him
with all your heart and with all your soul.
Deuteronomy 4:29

The Book of Deuteronomy reminds me of a parent sending a child off to college. You’ve told them everything already, you’ve modeled and trained, but it all needs to be said again before you drive away from campus. The word Deuteronomy means, “repetition” or “second law.”

Moses is repeating everything he has already shared with his “children” (the Israelites) as they prepare to enter the promised land. He will not go with them. The baton of leadership will pass to Joshua.

Do you hear the urgency in his words? He is pleading – be all in! ALL your heart and ALL your soul! He desperately desires to motivate them to live for God.

Forty years has passed since Moses led them out of Egypt. But getting out of exile is not an end in itself. If Egypt was the “negative,” the wilderness is neutral ground. Now it’s time to move into the positive: to enter the long-awaited promised land and return home to the place given their ancestor, Abraham.

Moving into the land of promise and finding the blessing that awaits them requires trust in God.

They could not free themselves from bondage in Egypt. They were hemmed in with no way out, but God made a way where there was none. He parted the Red Sea! This is a beautiful metaphor for our salvation. We, too, are in bondage, enslaved by our own sin. Like the physical situation of the Israelites, we have no way out spiritually. But God made a way. He parted the Red Sea. He sent His Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins.

What comes next? Shouldn’t the Israelites in Old Testament times – and every believer now – be so grateful for freedom that we commit ourselves to living for Him?

Sadly, the Israelites fell short … as do we. They disobeyed God, even resorting to idolatry. Their disobedience delayed the blessing of the promised land as they wandered in the desert for 40 years – freed from bondage, but not yet enjoying all the blessings that awaited them.

Out of the negative, but not moving into the positive.

Are you a follower of Jesus but find yourself wandering in the desert – living less, when God has more? The call is to move forward to live for God: to follow after Him, to live according to His righteous ways.

This is the best life. This is the way of receiving all God has for us.

This is the life Moses spurs the Israels then (and us now) to lean into. An all-in, wholehearted life! No more playing the hokey pokey, in today and out tomorrow.

Seek the Lord! It’s a choice that requires action and effort. We don’t just accidentally stumble onto God’s truth. We go after it. Every. Single. Day. It means placing ourselves in His presence, putting our faces in His Book (before scrolling Facebook!), and daily seeking the indwelling of the Holy Spirit.

But always remember: We don’t follow Him to find his love. We follow Him because we already are loved!

Let’s pray that 2024 is the year we move out of the desert and into Promised Land living! Are you with me? Let’s choose to be ALL IN – seeking Him with ALL our hearts and ALL our souls!

You may have read or even memorized Matthew 6:33, “Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness …”

But what does it mean, and what is the practical application of that truth? In our latest devotional video, Laura endeavors to answer those questions as she unpacks this powerful verse from our January Write the WORD bookmark. We invite you to watch her teaching, and then join us this month as we read, write, and study verses that highlight the word, SEEK.

We are beginning 2024 with a focus on seeking God … and we pray that you will commit to joining us in this endeavor. Visit our Downloads page today for your January Write the WORD bookmark, optional S.O.A.P. study outline pages, and other free resources to help you love and serve God and those He has placed in your sphere of influence.