Cross My Heart Ministry

Sin is not ended by multiplying words,
but the prudent hold their tongues.
Proverbs 10:19

Every kid that has ever gotten into trouble (eventually) learns to STOP TALKING when caught by his/her parents. Rationalizing, justifying, and certainly back talk just make it all worse!

Our legal system requires an accused party to be reminded, “You have the right to remain silent…” Obviously, because “multiplying words” may provide enough evidence to convict oneself.

Those may be two extremes (most of us are no longer teenagers missing curfew or criminals caught shoplifting or driving while intoxicated), but the principle is still good for living life. Whether navigating a disagreement with our spouse, speaking up as a citizen at a city board meeting, or participating in a church life group – when we talk too much, share too much, or keep pressing in to make our point, what could have been a valid and rational argument may get lost in the “multiplying words.”

Pride could be the real motivation … really, it’s often true that pride is the sin lurking behind every other sin! My determination to keep talking – to keep pressing to make my point ten different ways – may stem from the prideful belief that I’m right and I just need to convince this poor unenlightened person before me to get with my program. Ugh!

James 1:9 reminds us that, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…” but our human default is often: speak quickly and don’t listen!

The poetic style of Proverbs is parallelism – meaning, two lines are offered, and a conjunction separates them. Sometimes the second line adds a similar meaning (synonymous parallelism) or continues the thought of the first line (synthetic parallelism). However, Proverbs 10:19 is a classic example of antithetical parallelism – the second line contrasts with the first. In this case, the opposite of “multiplying words” is to hold the tongue! The contrast is heightened by contrasting sin with being prudent.

It’s ironic. Our desire to talk is a desire to share our wisdom, but the talking is what exposes a lack of wisdom!

Clearly, Solomon’s wisdom for us: talk less!

Clothespin, anyone?

In this week’s devotional video, Laura and her friend, Barb Maples, discuss their thoughts on the Proverbs 31 lady and her trait of speaking with wisdom. We invite you to listen and be blessed as Barb shares a personal story of a friend who was this kind of woman for her many years ago.

Visit our Downloads page today for your copy of this month’s Write the WORD bookmark, featuring Bible verses with the word, TONGUE. You will also find other free resources to help you balance your busy life with your heart for serving God and loving others.

My tongue will proclaim your righteousness,
your praises all day long.
Psalm 35:28

Reading verse 28 in isolation could lead us to assume David was in a season of joy and contentment. To truly appreciate this ending to Psalm chapter 35, we must begin in verse one and read all the way through. The first 27 verses paint the full picture of David’s current circumstances. The bulk of the chapter is an appeal to God, asking Him to intervene:

• “…contend with those who contend with me…” (verse 1)
• “May those who seek my life be disgraced…” (verse 4)
• “…may ruin overtake them by surprise…” (verse 8)
• “Rescue my life from their ravages …” (verse 17)

We could fill the page with David’s cries to God. Clearly, this man of God has learned to do his fighting on his knees and he holds nothing back! He as a warrior, but he also knew which battles belong to God.

He ends his prayerful appeal on a confident note—a testimony of his steadfast faith that God will provide:

My tongue will proclaim your righteousness,
your praises all day long.

David’s declaration teaches us that praising God is a choice. He has laid his circumstances before God, and those circumstances are indeed dire. While nothing has yet changed on the outside, David’s heart has changed on the inside as he systematically brings his burden before the Lord. Anxiety evaporates and gives way to praise. Fear yields to faith.

Do you see it? David chooses to praise God even before he sees how and when God will answer!

There is power in praise!

David’s heart was the battleground. And giving it all to God brought the victory. He ends in praise, and he declares the praise will continue all day long.

Can you and I take up that challenge? Can praise be our ammunition against the enemy? When fear creeps in, can we choose to declare God’s righteousness and praise Him when life is hard and the struggle is real?

It’s so easy to praise God in hindsight—to look back and remember and praise Him for what He has already done. The victory that’s been delivered. The provision that was received. But it takes a heart of deep faith to praise Him in advance and then choose to keep on praising Him all day long.

May we be women of God who praise God all day long … come what may!

In this week’s video, Laura and her friend, Phyllis Lauber, discuss Proverbs 12:18. As a former school counselor, Phyllis is well aware of the power of words to hurt and bully others, or to build them up and bring healing. We invite you to watch now as Laura and Phyllis discuss the power of our words:

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“The Spirit of the Lord spoke through me;
his word was on my tongue.”
II Samuel 23:2

Chapter 23 of II Samuel is titled, “The Last Words of David” in my Bible. As King David writes his memoirs and reflects on his life, this man-after-God’s-heart declares the presence and power of the Spirit of God in his life.

Perhaps David’s words are not only declared but shared with wonder and amazement.

God plucked up a kid from a shepherd’s field and chose this runt of Jesse’s litter to be the king of His people. Clearly, God will use anybody. In fact, He seems to take particular delight in using nobodies from nowhere to fulfill His purposes.

The key to being used by God is to acknowledge it’s all done through, by, with, in, and for Him. We become useless to God when we begin to usurp even one smidgen of the glory for ourselves.

If God’s Spirit is in us, we must give Him full access to our hearts, minds, and tongues. This access simultaneously equips us for what He calls and protects us from seeking glory for ourselves. If His Spirit speaks through us, it is HIS word on our tongue.

If I desire to be used by God – to be a woman after God’s heart – then I yield it all to Him. Is His Word on my tongue? Is His Spirit speaking through me?

Women of God are women who may be called upon to praise, teach, encourage, mentor, discipline, coach, and advise. They are women who praise, thank, re-direct, and counsel. The words coming from the tongue of a woman of God should be prompted by the Spirit of God. That only happens as we deliberately, consciously, intentionally, and continuously yield our tongues, as well as our hearts and minds to His Spirit. For me, that means more of Him and less of Laura.

My tongue is often the best litmus test for how much and to what extent I have yielded. What about you? Is His Word on your tongue? Is His Spirit speaking through you? Would you like Him to? Would you ask Him to?

What joy will be ours to, like David, come to the end of our lives and look back in wonder and amazement to declare, “The Spirit of the Lord spoke through me; his word was on my tongue.” And then to add, “Hallelujah! To Him be all the glory!”

This week’s Friday devotional video, Laura is joined by her friend Franni O’Neal, as they unpack Proverbs 10:19. We invite you to listen as they discuss “tongue-holding” strategies.

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You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free.
But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh;
rather, serve one another humbly in love.
Galatians 5:13

What is your spiritual status?

If you have confessed your sin, repented of it, called on Jesus for salvation, and accepted the gift of eternal life He made possible by His death, then your identity has been changed for all eternity.

You are free — spiritually free. Redeemed. Secure for eternity. Your status need not be renewed, you don’t have to re-apply, and it never expires. Eternal means eternal. Forever. Done. Complete.

All that mess … all those poor choices … all that shame and regret? Every bit of it is nailed to the cross of Christ. Your debt has been marked, “PAID IN FULL” by the One who knows all and loves you anyway. Loved you enough to die for you.

Through Jesus, we have freedom. Freedom from the eternal consequences of sin — but also freedom from the insidious addiction to self.

As Americans, we toss around the word freedom very easily. We’ve all declared, “It’s a free country!” when rationalizing behaviors and choices that are often contrary to God’s truth.

Our Constitution ensures each citizen “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” But our identity in Christ brings us eternal life, liberty in our personal choices, and the freedom to pursue something much greater than happiness: holiness.

Our salvation happens in a moment, a dot on the timeline of life when we surrender to Him. But going forward from that point until the final dot on the line, when we step out of time and into eternity — the time between those two dots represents the life we live in Him. What does that line segment represent?

Is it a life of self-indulgence or self-sacrifice?

Is it devoted to happiness or to holiness?

Is it a life filled with the dutiful “have to,” or the joyful “want to”?

Is our time spent pursuing earthly pleasures, or promoting God’s kingdom?

Is the focus on self, or on service?

Re-read the verse above again. What does Paul make clear is the opposite of indulging the flesh? A life of service. Giving ourselves to others. Sacrificial living — not to make much of me, but to make much of the One who set me free.

Before we begin ticking off the “I’ve-done-this” list (worked in the nursery, taught VBS, made a casserole for a sick friend, visited the nursing home, wrote a check for the offering plate), please note that Paul also addresses the attitude behind the action. Does humility characterize the motivation for my actions? Are my acts of service done in a manner or for the purpose of drawing attention to me? Are you and I releasing freely what we have been freely given? Do we serve humbly?

We are called to serve in humility.

We are called to serve in love.

When the love of Christ consumes us, we can release acts of service in love. An awareness of how deeply we are cherished (undeserving, sinful, and selfish though we are) prompts us to serve others in humility and love.

When we genuinely embrace the truth that Jesus loved us so deeply and profoundly that He would die in our place, our cup is so full it runs over — it must run over — to also drench those around us with His love.

How is God calling you, allowing you, blessing you, to pour out His love to those in your world?

To serve others and to release love in humility … this is the place of real joy and ultimate freedom. Of true life and liberty. As each day takes us closer to that next dot on the timeline of life, let’s lean in to serving others with love and humility, with whatever time we have left.

The Bible has a great deal to say about how we use our words … whether it’s for good and for evil. Our August bookmark highlights 31 verses featuring the word, “TONGUE.” We invite you to listen as Laura introduces the coming month’s topic, and pray this new study will convict, encourage, challenge, and spur you on to use your words to honor God!

Visit our Downloads page today for your copy of our August Write the WORD bookmark, optional S.O.A.P. Bible study pages, and more free resources to help you balance your HEART for Christ with the demands of a busy HOME.

“You have been set free from sin and
have become slaves to righteousness.”
Romans 6:18

We all worship something.

It is inherent in our nature to worship. Oh, we may not literally prostrate ourselves before idols carved from stone, but 21^st-century westerners are no less idolaters than those who worshiped Baal in the Old Testament, or Artemis in the first century, or Buddha in the Far East.

An idol is that which captures your affections. It is what your mind drifts to, and what your heart is focused upon. If you want to identify your own idols, ask yourself these two questions:

1. What makes me happy?
2. What makes me angry?

More specifically, what makes me happy when I have, and angry when I don’t have?

Whatever we worship is the priority of our calendar and our debit card. It’s where we spend both our time and our money.

What would an audit of your time and treasure reveal, dear friend? What is your priority? What do you and I relentlessly pursue and prioritize, come what may?

• If my vehicle must be washed and waxed weekly … if there are strict rules about eating and drinking in my car … if a ding or scratch prompts a cry of rage … then my idol may be 5000 pounds of metal on four wheels.
• If it is vitally important that my home be uncluttered, a place of order and beauty … if I’m most pleased when all the kids’ toys are in the proper containers, rather than spread out on the floor and used … if I’m unsettled by junk mail on the counter or shoes kicked off by the front door … if my watchful eye attacks every scuff on the wall or drip on the counter with diligence fueled by irritation … I may very well live in my idol.
• If my day is planned around hours at the gym … if my thought life is intentionally and strategically eyeing the clock to calculate how and when I can don my running shoes … if I am consumed by counting calories, carbs, or fat grams … if the movement of the scale by two notches brings alternating joyful delight or self-condemnation … then perhaps I’m walking around in my idol.

The most insidiously dangerous idols are the ones that can be good things (an organized home, an advanced degree, a healthy body, ministry to others), but garner our time and affection to the exclusion of all else. They become the main thing. The before-all-else thing.

Does your thought life indict you?

Are you convicted when asked the question, What brings you greatest joy?

Are you nailed when asked, What makes you angry?

Are we most happy when entertained by our favorite TV show? Does shopping, gossiping with friends, or eating a fancy meal bring pleasure? Do we indulge in entertainment that depicts violence, lewd behavior, or profanity? Do we blindly ignore our Lord’s name taken in vain?

What have we compromised, tolerated, or ignored, in order to pay homage to our idols?

In II Peter 2:19, we are warned that we are slaves to whatever has mastered us:

They promise them freedom,
while they themselves are slaves of depravity—
for “people are slaves to whatever has mastered them.”

Peter’s words echo those of Paul to the Romans:

Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves
to someone to obey him as slaves,
you are slaves to the one whom you obey –
whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death,
or to obedience which leads to righteousness?
Romans 6:16

What is it that you and I just can’t not do – or refuse to try to not do? Do we scoff at fellow believers who sound the alarm of warning? Do we rationalize our license as liberty, proclaiming grace has set us free from legalism? Do we take our sin – our idol worship – seriously? Do we consider that our choices grieve the heart of the One who died to set us free?

Oh, God, what has mastered me? What owns me? What shackles have I willingly – eagerly – allowed to be put on my heart and mind? You set me free from sin … please help me to LIVE free from sin. Fill my heart with a desire to live a life of genuine joy, a life on earth with an eye set on heaven. I worship You alone. Help me to worship You alone!

In our devotional video this week, Laura is joined by her friend, Stacey Broyles, for a discussion of Galatians 5:1 : It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. We can enjoy the fullness of life in Christ because of His atoning work on the Cross! We invite you to watch Laura and Stacey as they share thoughts on the meaning of true freedom in Christ:

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I run in the paths of your commands,
for you have set my heart free.
Psalm 119:32

God’s good law establishes healthy boundaries for us.  

Just as we don’t resent the owner’s manual for our vehicle telling us that we need to add five quarts of oil to achieve optimal efficiency, we should not resent it when God, through His Word, provides advice for us to run well.  

He is our creator; His Word is our manual.  

His commands are not rules to rob of us our joy, but precepts to keep us healthy and safe. The Psalmist figured that out and is cluing us in. Read the verse above again. Does it sound like a person living under a yoke of legalism and oppression? Indeed, it does not. The Psalmist is delighting in the joy that comes with freedom.  

As followers of Christ, we have been set free from the consequences of sin and death for eternity. But also set free in this life here and now – free from the shackles of living to please others, free from the oppression of rules laid out to gain the approval of others, free from the self-imposed standard of perfection we often place on ourselves.  

Living under the authority and lordship of Christ brings peace, joy, and contentment that can be found in no one and nothing else.  

The picture that comes to mind as I read Psalm 119:32 is school children at recess … sprinting from the building, ready to embrace the freedom to play and run. Their squealing and laughter testify to the joy of a welcome break from school work, sitting quietly, and studying diligently.  

Several years ago, I heard of a study completed of school children at a playground. When fences were in place around the perimeter, the children spread out. They played and enjoyed every square inch of the vast playground. But when the fences were removed, they huddled in the center, fearful to get close to the edges of the property. Their need to be safe robbed them of freedom. 

When we respect the healthy “fences” our Heavenly Father provides for us, we are blessed with joy and laughter, as well. When we climb over (or tear down) those fences, we forfeit our freedom in Christ. We bring on ourselves the pain that comes with sin.  

Is your heart free? Have you found freedom in Christ? Are you running in the playground of His commands – enjoying every square inch He has provided for you?  

If your “heart has been set free” as the Psalmist’s was, then why not grab every blessing He has for you by choosing to “run in the paths” of our Lord’s commands?

Would you stop now and praise Him for the blessing of His Word, and for the freedom that comes with obedience to it?  

In this week’s devotional video, Laura and her friend, Sheila Bennage, discuss Luke 13:12. In this passage, Jesus heals a woman who has been crippled – bent over – for 18 years! We invite you to listen as Laura and Sheila discuss this account of physical healing (that can point us to the greater spiritual healing available in Christ) and hope you will be challenged to consider areas where the enemy has you living less – living bent over – when you can live FREE because of your identity in Him!

Therefore, say to the Israelites:
‘I am the LORD, and
I will bring you out from under the yoke of the Egyptians.
I will free you from being slaves to them, and
I will redeem you with an outstretched arm
and with mighty acts of judgment.’
Exodus 6:6

God had a message for the Israelites in Exodus 6 and it was to be delivered by Moses. Before giving the message, however, He reminded Moses: I am the LORD. 

This foundational truth had to be established and received before the Israelites could move ahead to receive any revelation, promise, or blessing … and the same holds true for us today. We must first acknowledge His authority and His Lordship over our lives.  

The name “Exodus” is literally translated exit or departure. The book of Exodus chronicles the story of the Israelites being led out of bondage in Egypt, and taken back to the Promised Land. We can view this book as a spiritual parable for our own personal journey. 

The Israelites were captives, slaves to the King of Egypt. We are — or were — slaves to sin. 

God’s message of blessing for the people includes three “I will” promises:  

• I will bring you out.
  
• I will free you. 
  
• I will redeem you.
  

Moses led them out of physical bondage and to a place of physical freedom; Jesus came to deliver us from the bondage of sin and to lead us to spiritual freedom. The Israelites could not free themselves from Pharaoh then; we cannot free ourselves from sin now.

It is a work of God from beginning to end.  

God provides freedom for us when we call on Him for salvation. That moment in time begins a new life in Christ — a life of freedom from the consequences of sin for eternity. That freedom is completely a work of God. There is nothing we ourselves can do or contribute to making it happen.  

Most of the readers of this blog have found freedom from sin: salvation through faith in Christ. But are you and I appropriating that freedom to live like the free women we are?  

Are there areas that — though you are redeemed — you are living in bondage? Have you run back to Egypt? Is there an old habit you can’t break? An old addiction you can’t shake? Are you trying to do it on your own?  

It it time to stop. Breath deep. Refocus. Look up.

Begin — again — at the beginning: by acknowledging His authority. It was the LORD who freed you, and it is the LORD who keeps you free. 

Will you bring that “besetting sin” before Him? (He knows about it, anyway.) Will you acknowledge your dependence upon Him? Will you acknowledge your own inability to find freedom from it on your own? And will you then cooperate with Him, by following where He leads?  

Can you hear Him speaking to you, as He did to the Israelites? 

• I will bring you out.
  
• I will free you. 
  
• I will redeem you.
  

Stop running back to Egypt, my friend. There is freedom in Christ! It’s time to live like the free woman you are in Him!

In this week’s devotional video, Laura is joined by her friend Amanda Barnett. We invite you to listen as they unpack Genesis 2:16-17 and discuss the freedom to CHOOSE to obey God — and the implications of our disobedience.

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